Do you have a detailed description of the person you want to have as a life partner, lover, or friend? Do you have specific criteria on their appearance, character, and other attributes? Do you have high standards? Or will you settle for whoever comes along?
Do “you” have the appearance, character, and attributes you want in a life partner? I mean all of them. Or are you only expecting your life partner to live up to your standards and not you? Is that fair?
Have you taken an honest look at this? A really objective look? It’s not an easy thing to do. If you don’t do this you’ll likely be in conflict with yourself and whoever you are in a close relationship with. This is because the two objectives will not be congruent.
Do you “now” have the appearance, character, and integrity that you expect in another person? Be it a life partner or even a friend? If not, it’s time to get busy and become what you want another person to be.
If you’re overweight, lose it. If you lack character, get it. If your integrity is weak, strengthen it. Set new personal standards in all these areas and commit to them.
There are huge benefits to doing this.
- You’ll attract people like yourself
- You’ll repel people who are not like you
- You’ll be able to instantly recognize a good match
- You’ll be able to instantly recognize a bad match
- You’ll waste less time with incompatible people
- You’ll enjoy rich, compatible, productive relationships
Are you feeling it? Does this make sense? I hope so, because it’s important.
Here’s a mantra that might help: Be it to get it. 😀