If you work really hard to meet someone new, it’s probably not going to happen. If you’re working hard at it you’re approaching it with an attitude of lack and desperation. Any potential partner you meet will see and feel this and be turned off.
Whether it’s a long-term quest over several months or a short-term one over a few hours at a nightclub, to find a new relationship, you need to have an attitude of joy and contentment. In other words, you need to be appreciative of your life as it is today and be okay with being alone.
How do you get yourself into such a state of mind and find a good match? You do it by…
- Being continuously grateful for all the good things in your life.
- For example, your health, your job, your home, your family, and your friends.
- Recognizing the value of not being in a relationship for a while.
- If your last relationship was toxic or your breakup was painful, you’ll have time to heal and get strong!
- If it has been a long time, then your appreciation of having a relationship will be great once it happens.
- If you have a fear of being alone, this time gives you the opportunity to overcome it. This will ensure that you do not stay in a relationship that falls short of your standards.
- Visualizing the person and relationship you want in detail.
- Spend 15-20 minutes on a regular basis imagining what your ideal partner looks like, their personality, and the qualities of your relationship in the present tense. Present tense means that you visualize as though you’re experiencing it now! This creates a vibrational match with what want.
- In doing this exercise, you are communicating to your subconscious mind and the Universe (or God) about what you want. Then they can go to work on bringing your vision into reality.
- All of the above aligns your desires with the Law of Attraction.
- If you stay on track, then it is very likely that one day you’ll suddenly realize you’re in the relationship you imagined! 🙂
- If you were to constantly brood about being alone and feeling that you will never meet a partner, that’s what you’ll manifest – more loneliness and scarcity.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve approached finding a date, partner, or relationship from a place of urgency and aimlessness. I wanted to meet someone new that night, that week, or that month.
I wanted to force things to happen right away. I had no clear idea of what I wanted in a woman. I had no vision of her appearance, personality, or character. When I approached it this way, I almost always failed. If I did meet someone, it was usually a bad match.
In contrast, if I was not in a hurry, grateful for the good things in my life, comfortable being alone, and had a detailed description of the woman I wanted firmly implanted in my mind through visualization, she would eventually appear. And it usually happened at a time when I least expected it.
If you don’t have a comprehensive list of the characteristics, attributes, and qualities you want in a partner, start this project by creating one. Give this task the same amount of time and effort you would if you were searching for a new car, house, or job. Then follow the steps outlined above.